When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.
For it isn’t your father, or mother, or wife
Whose judgment upon you must pass
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.
He’s the fellow to please – never mind all the rest
For he’s with you, clear to the end
And you’ve passed your most difficult, dangerous test
If the man in the glass is your friend.
You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.
Today is day 30. The mission was "30 Scenics in 30 Days." It has been 30 days and there are more than 30 Scenics; mission accomplished...Man in the Glass is happy too.
The project, simple in structure; has been anything but simple. When I slow down and breathe; when I take in a moment, and swirl it around in my mind...that's complex. Emotions are not one-dimensional.
Jim Valvano, dying of cancer, gave one of the most memorable speeches of all time at the ESPY's. For me the speech is summed up in this segment:
..."To me, there are three things we all should do every day. We should do this every day of our lives. Number one is laugh. You should laugh every day. Number two is think. You should spend some time in thought. Number three is, you should have your emotions moved to tears, could be happiness or joy. But think about it. If you laugh, you think, and you cry, that’s a full day. That’s a heck of a day. You do that seven days a week, you’re going to have something special."
Tears are not a weakness. I stood on the The Butte, staring off at the glacier, and teared up...not out of sadness, but overcome with the moment. Being vulnerable brings it's own strength. My friend Michele shared this on her Facebook and it stuck with me: "love is giving someone the power to destroy you, but trusting them not too."